Being Manipulated

 

Jer this one is for you.  But I think in order to address it I need to start at the beginning.

A few months ago I did not know Jer or her crew at all, not even online really.... Nor did I know Sal or his rescue. I was given a screenshot - a single screenshot mind you, and a verbal story from Stacy Kendall, then I was tagged in threads in which it appeared Jer was verbally harassing HMG. Now, both of these situations tie together, even if they do not appear to. 

I will not rehash the HMG issue beyond saying that is was, in my opinion, a complete set up. So, during the drama over that is when this single screenshot was provided to me...... Just as the HMG drama had begun to quiet down...... If people truly noticed, it was Stacy always bringing in the drama when things would quiet down - not me. Just like when this issue began to die she blew up because I demanded a helper for her horses and she had tons to say none of which addressed the issue at all, only created more drama instead of resolving the issue.

Keep in mind nearly everything that had been given to me on the single screenshot issue came from Stacy. She drove this idea that the amount they were requesting was odd.... I thought so too until I did some research..... However, due to her monopolizing my time I was NOT able to get online much to finish the research and make any corrections so the post I made sat unattended and idle.

Stacy has something against Sal and his rescue, to date I have not figured out what though. She used me, manipulated me for her own cause against him and those who called out HMG since they were connected. I apologize for being so easily taken by her bullshit and for running with it before I had all the facts. I was not able to gather those facts while she was present. She made sure I saw only what she wanted me to see...... What she wanted me to see were cleverly edited screenshots that made it appear that HMG and herself were victims of online bullying...... Once I was able to find and review the full posts, comments,, etc I learned this was not the case......

You must also keep in mind that while I was being pulled into all of this I was also caring for Stacy's 4 horses on a daily basis and had zero rest even when Stacy was here to handle them herself. I was functioning on exhaustion, extreme pain and serious lack of sleep. I was also trying to locate a reliable helper for those horses, which Stacy hated having other people around them...... Every day she also texted / called a lot thus monopolizing my time on days she was not here. She is very good at that.

Once I had some time to truly do a deep dive things were definitely not as Stacy had presented them. Sal and his rescue were doing an amazing job with the dog in the screenshot and what did it matter where they choose to send the dog for training? That was her issue. I questioned it because I am 54 and had never heard of such high prices for training before...... I never once called it a scam, nor did I call anyone involved a scammer - they are not. I was simply floored by the amount is all. But Stacy kept pushing the issue, especially when she was here and sitting at my table. She would pull up the video and say look, does that dog look like it needs trained? 

I am glad the pup is being well cared for and commend the crew who came together to help it. 

For Sal I apologize for allowing myself to be used as a tool by Stacy to further her agenda of hate against him and what he does. On this issue he did not deserve the bullshit she brought on, nor did those who came together for this one dog deserve it either. I do hope  one day in the future we can work together in this rescue world, for now just know I apologize for being drawn into her bullshit and running with it. 

Terri is another one I still do not really know, but got pulled into a group chat created by Stacy, not me. I saw what she was doing and eventually left that chat because I was not going to participate in the childish games. I had hoped that me leaving the chat would have demonstrated I had enough of Stacy's games at that point. Stacy made sure I was kept informed on that chat though sending me screenshots and reading it to me when she was here, even though I told her I was not interested. Stacy kept pushing the issue, making more chats, cleverly editing screenshots of posts, comments etc...... But the blame for the drama got laid at my feet..... Even though by this point I had stopped participating in it altogether.

I sat back and watched..... I researched and Stacy kept tagging me trying to get me back actively involved. Fake accounts popped up supposedly harassing her, HMG but surprisingly, not me. It was during this time random, creepy text messages began coming. It seemed the more I tried to pull out the more bullshit came in trying to keep me engaged.......

To those who got pulled into that group chat I do apologize. In the chat you saw how she orchestrated it so that only her view was the one being pushed. This is why I left that chat and refused to participate, by this time I saw how she was using me and was trying to stop it.

Jer and I have been chatting although she is definitely bullheaded! I have apologized to her and do so here now. It is up to her to accept it so we can move forward. Had Stacy not played puppet master in all of this crap we never would have been at each other's throats. I apologize for allowing her to use me as a weapon against Jer and do hope she can acknowledge the apology.  As I told her before, a radio show on the matter will not occur until she can acknowledge it. 

Jer and some others came together to assist in getting Stacy's horses to a better place with a capable caretaker after my injury made it impossible for me to continue caring for them. Regardless of what Stacy does, the horses are innocent and should never suffer because of ill feelings between those who try to help them, same for the 4 cats. The kitties are at a different location now too on a waiting list to be spayed / neutered. It is amazing how we all worked together, even though we had not yet worked much of this out. For that, and for those amazing horses, I do thank those who made it happen.

Jer should know that I do not usually run with shit like that. It was due to me being exhausted, lack of proper rest and sleep and my pain level I was not functioning / thinking clearly. Hell I could barely function in the board meetings if that gives you any idea of how bad my health situation was. I functioned daily on autopilot, literally..... wake up, have coffee, go do animal care, lay down try to rest, get up do evening rounds....... I had barely even dj'd for months because the horses care took too much out of me. Stacy used this to her advantage and I still do not know why she dislikes your crew so much. I never did figure that out. I suppose it will come out one day.

I said some hurtful things, but so did Jer. The main fuss came down to me and Jer. I do apologize for the hurtful things and one day I hope Jer can see she needs to do the same for the hurtful things she said. I am willing to forego that though so we can simply move past this. I will not itemize everything, nor do I expect her to. One apology for it should be enough to cover it. Now I simply wait for her response. Jer said that she owes me nothing.... I could call it even because of her assistance with the horses, for that I am forever grateful. 

For those now trapped in Stacy's web of lies and deceit be careful because she does not care what damage her drive will do to you. You are simply a tool to further her agenda, when you are no longer useful to her she will drop you like a hot rock and not even look back.

Now that my body is finally beginning to heal some I am getting some things done for sure! I am still exhausted but working on it!!!!

Now I am off to rest and relax a while, this heat wave is nuts!