Demands and Respect..... ATTN: Jer

 

I am a patient person who tries to live by the four agreements.... (see the link below)......

I was drawn into so bullshit drama by Stacy and Heather, who live for drama.......

I could use excuses for everything that went down such as how exhausted I was, lack of proper sleep, extreme pain, no appetite, inability to function properly, inability to focus and more..... They knew this and used it to create extreme drama that did not need to even happen, all due to their dislike of someone I didn't even know.

Sal I do not know why the two of them hate you so much and I apologize for being drawn into their web of hatred on the matter. You did not deserve what Stacy was saying and the agenda she was pushing. 

Keep in mind that being overly exhausted is similar to be very drunk. Living daily like that for months takes a toll on a person, but it really is no excuse to be drawn into someone else's agenda to attack other people. 

This brings me to the other person Stacy used me to push her agenda.... Jer..... Now Jer is pushy, obnoxious and very disrespectful for sure. She has spread lies that I called her and Sal scammers simply because the group where I made the post has that word in the title. Not once in the post did I ever call them scammers or say that what they were doing was a scam, not once - I have the screenshots to prove it and I am quite sure Jer does as well. She is just ticked because of the group NAME. The group does far more than just question certain posts.... But Jer cannot be bothered to check things out in the group, nor can she be bothered to read texts I have sent her - Yes I also have screenshots to prove her own words that she has NOT read the many texts I have sent her......

Why ask me for something, when I send it you cannot be bothered to read it....... But then you wanna blow up my phone demanding it when it has already been given...... Acting like you are the one waiting when you have it in your hands and are too self absorbed to accept it.......

Last week we opened a dialogue where I apologized to her several times in text. Jer keeps demanding an apology, saying that not once have I apologized. She admits that she has NOT read all the messages, therefore she has not seen the apology..... I flat refuse to mention a word on the radio show UNTIL Jer can take the time to read the thoughtful messages I sent and the heartfelt messages I put time and effort into. If she cannot take the time to read them, acknowledge them and accept the apology then why should I take the time talking about it on my radio show????? So, sick of her blowing up my phone asking for something I have literally already given her many times over. So, Jer if you want more than this blog post take the time to read what has already been sent to you, acknowledge it and accept it. Until you can this post will be all you ever get.

Jer also acts like she is the only one busting ass in the rescue biz..... Only she can do things right and everyone else (those she dislikes) are all fake rescuers..... Jer acts like she is the only one who can be so utterly exhausted after taking care of the animals that she is the only one permitted to be upset, testy and grumpy. Jer acts like she is the only one who knows how to do things right and she seems to dislike cat rescuers with a passion, no clue why though. These are just my personal observations after dealing with her for a few months now.

Jer, I am told, did step up to  help the horses. I am not sure what part she played in that since I did not deal with her personally on it. For that, whatever her part was, I do thank her and the 2 horses thank her.  However, to claim the situation the horses were in was due to MY bad decisions is not fair or correct. Jer really thinks she knows everything about everyone without actually talking to the person she thinks she knows everything about.

So, here is the lowdown on how the horses and 4 cats came to be here....

Stacy and I had been friends for months and one day I get a panicked call that the place where her animal were had locked her out and dumped her cats at the Apple Valley shelter..... Up to this point all I had been told is that soon she would need to move her animals. She never told me why. She pretended to be super stressed, acting like she was gonna have a stroke because of the cost to retrieve the cats and no place to put them. She kept saying how she needed to go to the hospital because her chest felt like it was gonna explode..... She manipulated me for sure and pulled my heart strings.

Since I have the space, I offered her to bring the cats here...... She had 3 females and one male. None of which have been spayed / neutered, even though 2 are well over 3 years old..... All were dirty, dusty and traumatized when they arrived. Stacy barely spoke to them when she dropped them off with a black trash bag of about 25 lbs of food. It was late, she had to work the next day...... So, it was up to me to get them all settled and calmed down.

I got the girls settled in the habitat and the boy stayed inside my place because he was still very young, but also very feral. None one had taken time to socialize him, nor were any of them litter trained...... Stacy works all the time and cannot be bothered..... The girls adjusted to using the box quickly in the habitat but the boy has destroyed the carpet next to my bed. Not once did Stacy ever clean up his messes where he insisted on using the carpet right next to a perfectly clean litter box. Not once! Nor would she ever take the time to simply help me pull that small piece of carpet out. Yet, her and Heather both want to talk about how ruined that section was when Heather stayed the night that time.....

About a week later, maybe not that long, Stacy calls all panicked again. She is locked out of where her horses are and is waiting on the sheriff to come make the people allow her in to get her horses and their supplies..... This was semi true...... She was waiting on the sheriff because the property owner would not grant her access since they had filed an eviction on her to get her animals off their property - it did not get to the final point, she moved everything to keep it off her record. 

Again Stacy used her heart condition to pull my heart strings. Since I did not have any fenced areas I have a friend who does and their property is sitting empty. I called, knowing they would say yes, but wanted to ask first. Of course, it's an emergency, the poor horses need a space...... Stacy was NOT forthcoming about how destructive one of her males is........ She got the horses settled and she knew my medical condition limited what I could do. All I was to do was feed and water, she would handle everything else on her days off. I can do that..... Until I saw how doing it her way was absolutely not enough....

For months she was told to use the tons of materials laying around to make a shade shelter for the horses before it got hot. I even put myself out to purchase a cordless sawzall to use to build the shelters. Stacy always had excuses as to why she couldn't I am not able to and tried to find volunteers to help but no one wanted to donate time or labor to help. I could not afford to pay anyone since I was paying for all the extra water the horses were using until I demanded Stacy purchase 1 load of water a month, which was what the horses were using until it began to get hot.

I had Stacy help move an elevated water tote up to the property so we wouldn't have to use 5 gallon jugs anymore. She had been giving them 15 gallons each per day, sometimes more.... As it got hotter they drank twice that much easily and her destructive male would dump his water barrel over all the time. By this time the toll of the 5 gallon jugs and lifting the hay flakes had already set in on me and Stacy kept promising to find me a helper. I tried to find someone reliable, had lots of promises but not one came through....... 

We had some teenage girls volunteering for a while on the promise that if they helped with the horses Stacy would teach them to ride..... Stacy promised them this and she never delivered...... These girls worked their asses off and Stacy always had excuses as to why they could not ride on any particular day she was there...... Due to this we lost the girls as volunteers. They may come back but I am not sure yet. They are very hurt that Stacy lied to them and used them.

The girls were a great help to me when I was sick with bronchitis and could not do my duties to the animals because I couldn't breathe. I asked Stacy to help find me a temp helper, of course she couldn't be bothered, she was working..... I paid out of my pocket to cover gas to have the teenage girls come up and help. Not once did Stacy even say thank you for that..... 

After recovering from that, I began to see how Stacy seemed to fell it is my responsibility to do for her animals. They had been here for months and her lies about getting her panels to set up on my property never came through. The horses were only supposed to be on the hill temporarily until we set up a space on my property. Stacy made zero effort to make this happen. Nor would she bother to change her own cats litter boxes in the house on the hill on her days off. Not once did she purchase a nag of litter for her own cats in the several months they were here. 

This brings me to how many times her male destroyed parts of the pen he was in.... She refused to use proper fence wire to repair it, insisting her hay twine was far better..... I was too exhausted and in too much pain to really argue about it, even though I have at least 6 rolls of the wire on hand, the proper tool for it and one roll is in my car always for such purposes...... He got out once and the teenage girls were the ones who caught him and did the majority of the repair that night.......

Not once did Stacy ever offer me gas money for running daily up on the hill to care for her animals. Not once did she offer the gas money for the generator to pump the water for her horses. When it began getting hotter and the horses began using more than one load of water a month she stopped paying for the water altogether - it was used to purchase the gas to run the generator to pump the water for her horses.... Yes she gave me $40 per week via cash app for a while - totaling $200. A load of water is $160 and her horses were using a load and a half at this point. She gave me cash twice, after she used the water money to purchase the gas for pumping for her horses....... Then it stopped altogether when I told her she needed to pay more since the horses were using more......

It had been over a month since the girls stopped coming to help at this point. I was worn down, exhausted and barely functioning. This is when the generator finally decided to die. It was running funny so I had gone outside to check. Stacy was in her truck while she was pumping the water for the horses. The pump was super hot and run dry. I thought the pump had burnt up, I was upset since I had just purchased it about 2 months ago. At this point the generator was still running, but running rough...... Stacy had about a half a tank that she took up to water the horses but there was none to put in the tank up there. 

That evening the generator finally died and the next day I had to go exchange it. I had a Predator 6500 and I was blessed to be able to upgrade back to the Predator 9000 for less than $100 and get the upgraded membership as well. But that 9000 is a beast with no wheels...... By the time we got it home and set up I had injured myself badly. Doc has ordered an mri, I am waiting on the letter from the insurance for that now. 

I informed Stacy that night of my injury and this was an emergency request for her to help find a helper to assist with her horses. My pleas went unanswered until late Friday night. My first notification to her was on Tuesday. Stacy had all sorts of excuses but no real solutions. She kept saying it is my responsibility...... So, I gave up trying to have her actually take some responsibility for her own animals and I reached out to someone I knew handled horses and also knew Stacy. This person is not liked by Stacy but is amazing with horses. Since Stacy kept insisting it was my responsibility, the responsible thing to do was to find a caretaker able to do what I no longer could. Since Stacy refused to even acknowledge my inability to care for the horses, due to the heavy lifting, I had no choice but to find someone who could.

This person reached out to animal control and the sheriff because the situation required law enforcement advice. We did not want to separate Stacy from her horses or have her try to claim they were stolen. When she was informed that AC had been consulted, Stacy came on Friday night and removed 2 of the horses. She has told 2 different stories about where those 2 went. She has claimed to some the 2 went to where she works. To a few others, she has told them the 2 are with a foster. All she ever does is lie so there is no telling where the two actually are.

The next morning I had barely finished animal care at my place when AC rolls up on the hill. We are outside the gate talking when this officer realized what horses we were talking about and actually knew one of the horses Stacy left behind. I let her in, she visited with the horses, took tons of pictures and checked the cats too. Remember at this point Stacy had 3 female cats up in the old house which were less than an afterthought for her. The AC officer consulted with the Captain and it was ordered that we had 24 hours to move the horses. This was already lined up we were just waiting for AC / law enforcement approval. This AC officer had zero issues with the cats care, but due to the horses not having shade or shelter Also, because the AC officer recognized my physically issues and agreed I could no longer provide proper care for the horses. She said I did the right thing.

At this point Stacy had involved a friend of mine who had been crashing in one of my campers before he headed to Montana. She manipulated him badly to the point he made threats of death to anyone who tried to move the horses. He even did so via text message. 

Due to this the next day we had AC and the sheriff assist us in loading the horses and getting them to the other boarding place. The sheriff then escorted this man off my property and gave him and Stacy formal trespass notice. Later that day, Sunday, the transport arrived for her cats and took them out of here as well. 

The person now boarding her 2 horses and myself have attempted to have adult conversations with Stacy on the matter. This has been impossible though. While attempting to detail the plans I lived in fear of this guy because he said he would kill anyone who tried to move the horses. He went so far as to try to block the road before we were actually there to do it. Then when the sheriff's were talking to him he straight up lied to them claiming he never threatened anyone and I gave him til sundown to leave..... I just pulled up the thread and handed my phone to the officer. The 3 deputies escorted him off the property thankfully!!!!

Stacy could not have an adult conversation though. It was all threats, deranged comments and how she was gonna sue and we should start packing......She refused to believe animal control gave the order or that they were even involved, not even when we gave her the AC officers contact info and told her to contact them. Both officers knew her well. Both officers had handled prior calls on her animals..... Both officers made it clear they needed to see the 2 she took from the property because there is still an open case on them. I could not help them because I do not know where she took them.

So, the first morning I have to breathe after dealing with all  of this, Jer starts blowing up my phone demanding her apology, that she has already received but admitted she has not bothered to read yet. Somehow she expect me to repeatedly state this apology - which she has not read prior texts which state it repeatedly. She expects me to grovel on my knees begging her forgiveness. The only one I am on my knees for is my Lord and Savior, sorry Jer you do not fit that bill.

When I told her to pause, scroll back and read she got angry and refused to. I told her to stop bugging me until she did then she got pissed telling me no one tells her what to do etc.... well, if you are to self righteous to simply scroll back and read what has already been given to you why the hell should you be blowing up my phone expecting me to grovel to you???

It was rude and self absorbed for you to admit you have not read what has been sent to you and disrespect me when I requested you stop blowing up my phone and scroll back in our conversation. THAT is why I blocked your number. THAT is why I restricted you on Facebook. I have zero time or patience for someone who refuses to read what they have been given, accept it and move on. 

When you read it you can leave a comment HERE and maybe I will remove the block and the restriction. Until you do though I simply and not gonna deal with you blowing my shit up over your inability to read what has already been sent to you. 

And if you keep shit talking me over it I will post ever one of those messages I sent you very publicly to prove that YOU are the one lying about the matter and YOU are the aggressor in this situation. Right now I am still decompressing from the fact Stacy actually had a nutjob threaten to kill us if we tried to move the horses..... It did not stop the horses from being moved, but none the less the threat was made....... I expect I will be served with a restraining order based on false information that I will have to deal with as well because Stacy cannot accept reality and lives in her own little fantasy world.....

Thankfully I have a down day today... Much needed and well deserved!!!!!

Thankfully I was able to get one of my security cameras installed. That thing is kick ass!!!! Full color day video, night vision motion detection and two way audio just for a start!!! I had so much fun with it the first night it went up omfg everyone should have a few of these!!! I will definitely be ordering more of them!!!!

So Jer, if you  cannot respect that you already have in your hand everything you asked for, or respect the fact that I am trying to decompress from Stacy having some twit threaten death then I have no time for you. The public discussion on my radio will NOT occur until you confirm what I have sent you. Once you confirm what I have sent you then I will do an entire radio show on the matter, this is not too much to ask since it was stated multiple times and you self admitted have not taken the time to read it. 

If reading an apology and accepting it is not worth your time to read it then why should I waste my time listening to your demands for the apology you already have????

Let me know below once you have taken the time to read everything I sent you. I will be waiting....

The Four Agreements

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1oPeEctLrvQ