People and Their Bullshit lies

 

 

So, my stupid ass did it again, wanted to believe someone was sincere and wanted to help out some dogs in need. So, to summarize, Angel agreed to help me with some projects that are difficult for me to do in exchange for housing his 6 dogs here. He agreed that HE would be the one taking care of them, providing food for them and asked me not to let other people around them. He was so desperate he practically begged me. I was not aware of his alcohol problems when this agreement was made. Angel likes Vodka, a lot.

 

Angel made all these huge promises when he needed a stable place for his dogs. I listened and he damn sure seemed sincere. 6 dogs, 1 male and 5 females spread around in multiple places and he could not keep them in town because he lives with his dad and sometimes mom.

 

I understand it is hard to be a pitbull parent, but these are American pitbull terriers - NOT traditional pitbulls!

 

So, after weeks of him asking and making promises that he will be the one to care for them, I allowed him to bring them to my property. They are good dogs, something Angel either lies about or just has no clue about his own dogs personalities. According to Angel the dogs are "aggressive". The only "aggression" I have witnesses is they will bark at the cats but they want affection. 

They will get all excited when I go out to feed and water them, sometimes catching my leg with the chain. So far they have not knocked me over - not for lack of trying though! They want to play! They want love, pets and human interaction! The aggression Angel spoke of seems to be nonexistent here. Once I took over feeding them and they were not being half starved, the "aggression" pretty much disappeared. Yes, they still bark at the cats, but tell them the kitty doesn't want to play with them and they quiet down. They want toys and I have none to give them.Nor can I afford toys for 6 more dogs.

So, he asked me not let allow others around his dogs. I agreed, until he found reasons NOT to show up to care for them. Because of how they are spaced out I need help on days when I care for them. But he gets all pissy when someone helps me! WTF you do not care enough to show up yet you think you can dictate who is gonna help me do YOUR work???? Angel does not want to care for these dogs, but on the same token he does not want any one else doing it either. I have tons of text messages where I ask him "when are you coming to care for the dogs" and Angel will literally text argue me that his dogs do not need food and water, or they do not need to eat that often.

 

Angel also did not inform me that the reason he did not show was lack of funds. He was buying one 50 lb bag of food a week and for these 6 dogs that is NOT enough. My text messages with him prove he sits there and argues me his dogs do not need to be fed or watered. Keep in mind this is AFTER I have fed them and know the status of their water dishes! I would not be asking him when he is coming to care for them IF I did not know that they needed these things!!! In his mind they are ok out in the desert being tended to when HE feels like it. Since they have been out here he has been here less than twice weekly, typically it averages to once weekly, to tend to them. I have been handling them in between his visits. 

I wanted to feel bad for him and went online to basically beg for food for the dogs. I was angry that he had not fully disclosed the situation. As time passed I began wondering if his lack of care for the animals is why he had to move them from their previous place. Angel approached me after he had been given 7 days to move the dogs. He did not say which dogs, because the dogs were in multiple places. I have the space out here what would it hurt? He promised he would be the one tending to them...... He lied. I did make a post in a Facebook group where some of the dogs were, seeking to reach out to the people but no one ever replied to that post.

 

Angel seems to think tending to his dogs twice a week is enough. Sometimes they have gone from Monday to Friday with no feeding from him. I fed them from my own dog food supply and carried water to them when Angel found excuses not to show. Angel was also told the dogs CANNOT be left on chains, kennels needed built. He is refusing to make an effort to get them off the chains. I looked at how he had those chains. All of them are too heavy for the dogs and locked with a huge padlock.

 

I told him every other day in the summer. No excuses. When he confessed the transportation issue I took it upon myself to offer a ride as well as contacting a few friends who are willing to provide transportation. When his ride doesn't show Angel will ghost me instead of replying to my texts. He NEVER tells me that his ride stood him up until it is too late in the evening to go get him. Angel will also play off like he did not know he had alternative transportation options every time he blows off coming to care for the dogs. All of this is documented in text.

ALL I have ever asked in this arrangement is honest communication. I am NOT getting that. When he does communicate with me it is lies and bullshit.

When Angel did not showing for 5 days I made a post online asking for some help with dog food. The community came to the rescue and the dogs have not gone hungry! Angel does not seem to understand that cheap shit food from Tractor Supply is NOT being eaten, the dogs do NOT like that shit and they just sling it all over the desert. Then they cry because they are hungry. He says it's all he can afford. How can someone afford to have all that food go to waste when the dog is NOT eating it and is still hungry?

I am the one who listens to the dogs. I listen when they are semi happy after being fed enough food and good food. I listened when Angel fed them that crap food with no protein, how they cried and grumbled. I listen to their barks and I know they are somewhat good guard dogs. They do not seem to understand the cats are allowed on the roof of the 5th wheel or allowed to roam free in their own yard. Remember, I live extremely remotely - bought this land so the cats COULD go outside and do cat things and be cats, have a yard to play in. I am the one feeding and watering them. Sometimes I do have others assist me and not once have the dogs been "aggressive" to other people, not even my IHSS worker's grandson! 

One thing I have learned is that Angel doesn't even know his own dogs. What he is calling aggression is simply being starved for affection!

I have listened to excuse after excuse and lie after lie when it comes to him taking care of these dogs. Sunday was the last straw. The agreement was he would help me out with a few things around here in exchange for housing the dogs here. Angel wanted set times / days so the last time he was here we sat down, made a plan, knew what the task would be on Sunday and he agreed to it AND promised that if his ride didn't show he would let me know. He promised to be  here "Sunday morning". So, I waited and waited and waited...... I listened to his dogs whine and cry because they were hungry....... When 5 pm rolled around  it was obvious he was not going to show nor was he replying to texts or answering his phone common on days he does not want to come and handle his obligations to his dogs), I went out and fed the dogs. 

Every time he is supposed to come out there is literally an excuse. Before yesterday, his daughter came over to visit. His ride stood him up is his favorite one though. Angel does not seem to grasp that animals are just as much an obligation as a child! I have so many text messages where I begin the day asking "hey what is your eta? Then end the day pissed as hell because he has totally ignored ALL of my attempts to communicate with him. 

Angel tries to tell people this is about him not helping me. It isn't. He dumped 6 HUNGRY dogs on me. He knew I cannot assume full time care of them and that was never part of the agreement! Angel also knew I could not financially afford to assume the cost of their feed. That was never part of the agreement. Angel is supposed to be out here taking care of his own dogs it is that simple! Angel refuses to accept that twice a week (sometimes only once a week) is NOT enough! The rest of the week falls to me to make sure the dogs are fed and watered!

I am sick of spending all day EVERY day he has scheduled to show up, sending texts only to be ignored. He doesn't even have the decency to text back explaining why he isn't going to show! Some days he will spend hours text arguing me instead of saying hey can you come get me so I can feed and water them. Angel only cares about his vodka tbh. I am to the point that if he can afford a large bottle of vodka daily then he has the means to buy food for the dogs as well as pay transportation out here to care for them.

Angel is not the one out here listening to these poor dogs that are so starved for attention they whine and cry a LOT. Due to how they are spaced out it is difficult for me t spend a lot of time with them. 

Angel is NOT the one who listens to them when he fails to show to do their care. Angel is NOT the one taking responsibility for securing food for them, paying for water to be hauled in to make sure they have water. Angel does very little where these dogs are concerned AND Sunday I learned he never cleaned Crip's kennel like he said he did.

 

Yes I am mad that Angel refuses to step up and do right by these dogs. I gave him a hard date to find alternative placement for them. He didn't even try. I then gave him a second chance. He blew that off too. I gave him a second hard date to move them in which he went silent, then messaged me while I was actually outside feeding and watering his dogs! He knows I do my outside chores early in the morning. He said I can come after 4 pm to take care of the dogs. When he says this he has NEVER once shown. Not once when he has given me a late afternoon time has he actually shown up. I explained I was already doing it and by 4 pm it would be done so there is no need.

I also laid out some other things he and I had discussed in the original agreement. He knows how I feel about drinking, alcoholism etc. He was supposed to be sober when he came to tend to the dogs or help me with some projects. Angel has not once been sober, even had the gall to ask me to loan him money to purchase some vodka at 8 am in the morning. Angel brings small bottles with him then leaves the empties in the bed of the truck. I made it perfectly clear that he needs to be stone cold sober if he ever wants to be permitted on my property again. He is no good to the dogs if he is under the influence.

 

Due to his drinking he screwed up part of the expansion on MY dog kennel. I stopped that project because now I have to figure out how to put a gate where I wanted it, but where Angel tried to set up one of the larger fence panels. Now I have to fabricate the difference between the gate and the post he set in concrete.

 

More of my tools have gone poof. I cannot find a single one of my rachets now or the right sized socket to finish installing my tv mount. They were here. They were in the bed of the truck. 

 

My main goal is to rehome these dogs with humans who can and will give them the love and attention they need and deserve. I made it clear to Angel that I cannot handle more dogs. I am expanding my chickens area, finally got a few to replace the ones that were lost in December. It is unfair to my animals that I now have to split time with the dogs he dumped on me. They are good dogs too which is the saddest part!

 

Angel tries to make them sound like they are so mean, aggressive and make people feel that the dogs should not be approached.  There are also things he said that make me believe he was breeding them for fighting dogs, and one dog here has a front leg injury that healed improperly and was never vet checked. Angel refuses to get them spayed and neutered, but said he wants to get a voucher for my cousin's dog Kong, so if Kong escapes when I feed mine then he cannot impregnate the females. He seemed so worried about Kong running around, which I used to allow him to do before Angel brought his dogs here. Angel assured me his dogs would KILL Kong if he got near them, once again totally untrue. They tried to play like normal dogs although I had to catch Kong to make sure we had no hanky panky!!! Kong is not mine to make the decision for. My cousin is in Washington and will be back for his dog. So, not mine to make such choices for.

I am so done with his lies and bullshit. I have not yet blocked his number because now it almost amuses me the excuses he can dream up as to why he will not take care of his own dogs. In the last text argument he tried to accuse me of stealing his dogs. He fails to see that if he ABANDONS them it is impossible to steal them! Not to mention the tons of texts where I am begging him to come care for them. I have stopped texting him since his hard date has expired. Now I am moving forward with finding fosters or forever homes for them.

The 6 dogs deserve better than being padlocked to those chains and I cannot assemble kennels by myself with the materials I have on hand. I also cannot afford to pay anyone to come out and build them. So, I would really like to get them off the property before the heat of summer truly kicks in. Also, where Angel put Daisy and Gannicus has a tendency to flood in heavy rains. If it rains those 2 dogs will be swimming. I need to find placement for them ASAP.

As for Angel..... You made your choice. You were given so many chances and you blew them all off. Dogs are a responsibility just like a child is and you chose to ignore it. Maybe get off the vodka and get your shit straight then you will be better able to handle responsibilities.