Self Entitled "Victims"

 This is an issue I have first hand experience with and can speak from a position of experience on.

It always amazes me how self entitled people can act so victimized after they have borrowed something - failed to return it - then act victimized when you demand for the item back. They seriously act as if you are taking their property away from them when it IS yours and they borrowed it, failing to return it!!!

I will use a general example. If a person borrows a cooler to transport ice in hot weather and is supposed to return the cooler once they get home - but doesn't - you are not wrong to ask for the cooler to be returned REGARDLESS if the person is presently using said cooler!!! The agreement was to transport ice - not to be borrowed and used indefinitely!!!! So, the fact that the person had ice and food in the cooler is NOT the cooler owner's problem. The borrower KNEW the cooler does not belong to them and should have returned it when they agreed to.

Self entitled people love to borrow things and not return them at all, then claim that the item is theirs. I have seen this far too much recently. I am also pretty fed up with the victim act when I personally ask for my own property back from such people who act like I do not have a right to even request that these little things be returned to me!!!

Sadly, the cooler in question was returned smelling as if something died in it and likely can never be used for food / ice storage again! I highly doubt I will ever be able to get that smell out!!!

The problem with self entitled people is that they truly believe because you have it then they are entitled to it. 

A really good example of this is someone I know, who has 14 + dogs and does NOT like to purchase enough food to feed said dogs, actually asked me for food from my storage camper to feed said dogs AND to use my propane to cook said food for the dogs they cannot / will not buy enough food to feed. Why would I take human food to feed animals that are NOT mine when I did so previously and am STILL waiting on those 4 boxes of pasta to be repaid?? Yes they were purchased and then used to feed said dogs quietly, never mentioned by the dog owners again because they KNOW they owe the 4 boxes but have zero intentions of repaying them because they fell since the pasta came from the food bank there is nothing to repay!!! 

These people want to take food out of my mouth and my pets mouth's to feed dogs they want the liberty of saying they have but not the responsibility of supporting!!! 

These same dogs NEVER get to go outside either. All of them were kept locked up in a small 5th wheel camper until a couple of months ago when the humans obtained a motor home. The dogs were then divided between the 2 campers. Let's not forget that there is a mini pot belly pig in that 5th wheel camper as well! Their treatment of their 2 children was much the same way, locked up, isolated, abused and controlled.

I have watched quietly long enough!!! I have listened quietly long enough. So have others...... We have seen some disturbing things...

These self entitled people "conned" me into helping them replace a phone at the end of last month on the promise of working off the cost of it. They did help a few hours for 2 days - not near the amount paid to purchase the phone, activate it and pay for the service. So, when I cancelled the service of course they played the victim online....... But it was when I repeatedly asked for the phone to be returned the real victim act kicked in!! It took me reporting the phone STOLEN to get it back! Literally less than 2 hours after the phone was black listed did it finally return to my possession!!! I also had to hold their charging cord and block hostage in order to get them to remove the pin number from the phone and do a proper factory reset!!! -- But somehow they are the victim. Once the phone was returned, I discovered it had been water damaged. Next week I will have to go take it to Cricket and see about replacing it. Hopefully I still have the insurance on it!! If not then that amount WILL be added to the damages list in the eviction! They received a brand new phone in the box and returned me a damaged phone!

What they will NOT say is that the reason I even had to help them get a phone is they were being pressured to reduce the number of dogs they have - rehome some of them by posting pix of them online. When the pressure was on surprisingly, their phone got crushed - literally stomped and totally unusable! Of course they blamed the dogs but you could clearly see there was no way the dogs could have possibly destroyed the screen in the manner it was crushed! They deliberately destroyed the phone so they had an excuse to NOT make posts about the dogs because they have ZERO intentions of rehoming any of the dogs!!!! 

This has happening more than once when it comes to making an actual effort to rehome the dogs they CLAIM they want to. When pushed about it there is always an excuse as to why they cannot do so. 

However, this is not when the self entitled behavior ends..... This is just the tip of the iceberg!!!

When I first met them, their two adult children still lived with them. At that time they had 20 + dogs and a "mini pot belly pig". What they did not know is that the person who introduced us had come to me first asking me to help the adult children in this mess. He told me his observations and I found them quite disturbing....

These people felt so entitled that they forced their children to drop out of in person schooling and begin online schooling before high school in an attempt to keep them isolated from the public. These two children were forced to care for the dogs and other animals while the parents ran the roads and stayed away sometimes for days or weeks at a time. These children were left to figure out how to get food for these animals and themselves while the parents collects the food stamps and spent those benefits on themselves - not allowing the kids to enjoy their own benefits!!!

They felt entitled to do so and acted victimized when one of the children left and opened his own food stamp case! They had told him that he could not even get his own food stamps until he was 23!!! So he stayed with them because he believed this lie!!! They failed to report the daughter leaving the home and continued collecting her benefits for months - until the son applied for his own benefits at which time he informed the worker of when he and his sister had left the home - but somehow the parents are the victims!!!!

Before the kids left they parents purchased a motorhome. Prior to that 4 adults, roughly 20 dogs and the pig were residing in a small 5th wheel camper..... Yes all of them, with one exception - one dog is in a kennel outside. The parents, who felt so entitled, ordered the daughter to clean the motorhome and remove old boxes of rat poison that had been left in it. The parents moved into the motorhome, taking some of the dogs with them, splitting the animals between the 5th wheel and the motorhome. 

Apparently not all of the rat poison had been removed because 3 of the dogs ate it and died. These self entitled people blamed the daughter for the death of these dogs and even made her dig the holes to bury them in while they stood and watched! The parents NEVER double checked the daughter's work!

The dogs are also extremely destructive - to the point NOTHING can be kept inside their campers. The dogs will break cabinet doors, drawers etc hunting for food because they are not fed enough. This is somehow the kids fault according to the self entitled parents. The kids have no cash income nor are the dogs theirs to feed but these self entitled parents seem to think anything related to the dogs is the kids fault.

After the son escaped, the dogs in the 5th wheel got into every cabinet, pulled out all of the clothes and destroyed them. The mother actually blamed the son having a temper tantrum. She said he is the one who pulled all the clothes out and threw them on the floor because he was mad they took his phone and locked him inside the 5th wheel for nearly 3 weeks!!! The majority of clothing that had been destroyed was the son's clothes - why would he destroy his own belongings when he was planning to leave?!?!?

The daughter, age 19 when she skipped out, did not even own a pair of shoes until some people helped her!!!! The son's shoes were falling apart and nasty!!! These people felt entitled to treat their children this way!! They felt entitled to keep their children the same way the Turpin's of Perris California did. They felt entitled to use the food stamp benefits on themselves and then punish the kids when they "stole" food because they were hungry!!! 

If someone gifted the children anything, the parents felt entitled to it and took it away from the kids. The parents would pimp the son out online and to neighbors for work. Every penny he earned had to be turned over to them. None of it went to benefit him even though his clothes were falling apart, his shoes were falling apart, he had no personals to keep himself clean with - bathing is NOT a priority in that household, nor is housecleaning.

The motorhome they live in now was pretty nice when it first pulled up. The kids have never lived in it - keep that in mind. The parents have only lived in it with some of the dogs for a few months and already the sofa sleeper is destroyed to the point it needs removed from the motorhome. Every cabinet door is broken. Every lower drawer has damage. It is no longer even fit to live in. The dogs have destroyed the carpet and other flooring. But somehow, to hear them tell it - it is all the kids fault for leaving them to take care of their own animals!!!!

The dogs have never been taken for a walk or outside to potty - not once since I have known them. I have not even seen this pig they claim to have because it is also kept inside, never coming out for any reason!!! 

What I have seen is both kids punished for not "properly" keeping the place clean. I do not see how they could even be expected to when the self entitled parents never bothered to provide them with cleaning supplies!!! Not once have I seen these self entitled parents purchased enough cleaning supplies for anything! The one time I did see cleaning supplies purchased was AFTER both kids had left. Then it was not enough supplies to even last two days with that amount of animals inside such a small residence!!!

Neither of the kids was permitted to bathe much. But neither parent set a very good example of this either. It was evident none of them bathed much even though ample water was available to do so. I have learned the reason for this is that the dogs must be supervised constantly because they will fight with each other. So they use this as an excuse for a lot of things. 

Another issue about the animals is NONE of them are spayed / neutered because the self entitled parents feel they have a right to inbred these dogs to make a few bucks on rehoming fees!!! When resources are provided to them to get these surgeries done at no cost they refuse to even call about them. 

As previously mentioned, these dogs are not fed properly, nor is the pig. After the son left there is no one residing in the 5th wheel with the animals kept inside there. So, in an attempt to escape to find food these animals have done a great deal of damage to the inside of this 5th wheel to the point of nearly digging through a wall!!! To hear the self entitled parents tell it - somehow this is all the son's fault!!!

 

Both children are slow learners - according to their schools, and the IEP program they were in. But the 2 grown ass adults in the home could not be bothered to teach either of them properly because the adults viewed the kids sole purpose to stay home and be a slave to the dogs! 

Enjoy taking care of all those dogs you insist on keeping, breeding and being stuck with. They are YOUR animals - not the kids - and it is YOUR responsibility to take care of them. That means having your ass stuck at home if the dogs cannot be left unsupervised! YOU chose to have them. YOU chose to have that many. YOU refuse to get them spayed / neutered - so YOU get the responsibility of taking care of them. It has never been the kids responsibility to do so - as you keep reminding them they are YOUR dogs. 

For the second example......

Someone who I considered a friend has taken advantage of me long enough. When she had nowhere else to go I allowed her to store some things in my RV since it was not in use at that time. I allowed her to use a motorhome on my property to reside in - but she only stayed there less than 2 weeks before moving in with her son in Victorville. 

I have been trying since mid-July to get a straight answer out of her about what / when she plans to deal with her things in front of and inside of my RV. Most of the time she just ignored the question, opting to pick an argument instead. 

 

I posted a 3 Day Notice concerning the matter last week. I researched California STORAGE law - which is very different than Tenant Law! I explained to her what California law said on the matter concerning the stored items in the RV that I was requesting her to deal with since I needed use of the RV (it is mine after all and I should not have to beg someone to take care of their own shit).

 

So, yesterday I finally got over to the RV and got her things moved to the motorhome and have my RV back.  There is still a good bit of cleaning to do, but all of her things are now in one spot instead of spread all over my property.

This, incidentally, is a habit of hers, to place her things everywhere so she can try to claim items belong to her when they do not. I watched her do it up on the hill and she was told that shit would not work with me, but she tried it. 

She is another one who is always a victim and never recognizes that her own behavior has caused the issue!!! 

When someone tells you that you can store the items a few weeks - which is far more than enough time to sort and put away what was there - they mean a few weeks NOT months or endlessly!!!! I can personally attest that it was ample time because I sorted EVERYTHING over there in half a day - so she could have easily done the same!!!

But somehow she will play it up that she is the victim! I have tons of chat messages and documented calls where I have discussed her coming to handle the stuff in MY RV and I do mean loads of them. 

She gave me $100 - which never even repaid me for the fuel spent on all the loads moved for her or paying the help!!! She has not given me one cent in rent or storage fees and acts like she doesn't have to - as if she is entitled to dump her shit all over my property and just leave it. Some of the belongings got rained on, more than once. Even then she refused to come take care of her belongings.

I took care to not break anything and put it in a place it was fairly protected from the weather - without entering the motorhome I permitted her to use. If she had truly cared about where these items were placed she would have been here doing it herself!!! I think waiting 3 months is long enough to understand she has abandoned the stuff and under California Storage law it is VERY clear - after 14 DAYS it is considered abandoned!

I am not a free storage facility. I am not a free caretaker of your things, nor am I responsible to look after those things when rent is not paid and the owner chooses not to take care of those things themselves. So, if you dump your shit in my front yard I will sort and dispose of it accordingly!!!

This person did exactly the same thing up on the hill. I now understand what Iva rambled about!!! 

BOTH of these self entitled "victims" either are known to use drugs or suspected of it. I will not be renting to anyone again UNLESS they can not only provide a random drug test - but a minimum of 1 year of clean screenings! I am so done dealing with junkies!!!